Life As I Play It

There’s a lot of buzz about me and my new girlfriend. It made her a little crazy; in turn it made me a little crazy. I’ve decided to abstain from blogging about the more intimate details in my life because, well, they’re not anyone’s business. This will be the first and final blog I ever put up about my girlfriend.

First I gotta vent; I think it’s funny how some people buzz me about how I ended up in a relationship, one I chose I might add, when their own relationship began the same way; it didn’t make any sense to the outside world how they got together, but they’re still going strong today. I don’t know what makes me more nauseas; people’s need to be in each other’s business or the hypocrisy of criticizing someone for doing exactly what they have done.

I have a very select few friends who know everything there is to know about me. Trust and friendship is earned over time. Most of these people have simply wished me well. Others, well…I’m no longer content to keep my mouth shut.

So many people IM me or call (when I have the phone) and they don’t even bother to ask me how I’m doing. They just talk. They talk and rant and go on about their problems without so much as a how-are-you/fuck-you to the other participant in a very one-sided conversation. To be honest? I’m a fool for allowing it. See, since I’ve been everywhere and done just about everything, there’s not a lot I can’t relate too. So I usually tend to give good advice. It’s why most people would keep coming back.

But I’m sick of it. I’m sick of being everyone’s sounding board when the fact is, with a lot of people, I just don’t care anymore. If you think you’re one of these people, rather than bitch and moan, I dare you to email or IM or text me and ask. Make sure you want an answer.

Long story short; I’m sick of the bullshit.

So yes, I have a new girlfriend. New girlfriend as in it’s just her and me, exclusively.

The basics? Her name’s Molly. She doesn’t have that big an internet presence. She attends college and is trying to become a history teacher (I love ambition in a girl). She’s gainfully employed. I’m most attracted to her intelligence, eyes, and smile. She’s funny. She makes me laugh no matter what my mood is (also a huge plus). She genuinely cares about my well-being and consistently asks me about my kids. She doesn’t sugarcoat anything and at the same time she hates hurting people’s feelings—but she will. She loves animals.

She’s ten years younger than me and I’m very aware of the age difference. I’m also aware of the ramifications should we be together when I get my kids. We’ve talked about it, extensively on a couple of occasions.

Getting a little deeper; we share a lot of life philosophies, including similar views on religion and family. She has been through her share of shit and come through stronger on the other side. She is fiercely loyal to friends and family (huge plus), she knows what she wants out of life (another huge plus) or at least knows she is working towards something. She is very much together, and at the same time she’s about as screwed up as I am, which is why we work.

Am I in love? No–although I could see it happening.
Do I like this girl? Yes. A lot. We spend a lot of time together, even if we can only do it through yahoo.
Do I care about her? Yes.
Do I care about what happens to her? Yes.
Can I envision being with her in six months? Yes.
Can she envision being with me in six months? Yes. (How do I know, you ask? I trust her.)
Is she aware that I have two children that come first? Yes. Again, we’ve talked about it.
If I thought she was in trouble, would I be there? Yes, but she can take care of herself.

So there it is; the basics and a little more on my new girlfriend.

I have a challenge for you.

I’m really easy to get along with. Chances are if you’re reading this, I know you already. Hit me up. Send me a message or comment here. Trust and friendships are earned, built over time. I challenge you not to assume, and not to gossip. If you really want to know, talk to me, earn my trust, as I will earn yours, and maybe we can learn from one another instead of whispering behind each other’s back.

I also want to take a minute and sincerely thank the people who wished me and Molly well. These people are among my closest friends.

This is the last deeply personal blog I put up for awhile.

I appreciate all the views, comments, and emails I get about my writing. No doubt this will alienate some people, but please; do not look at my blog as a screen for every last thing that happens in my life. My blog is the summary.

The adventure is in the living.

(c) Avery K. Tingle for Modern Magic Enterprises LTD and Nomadic Productions LLC

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